New Plan on YouVersion!

Hi all! I’m excited to share that my latest plan is live on YouVersion!

Change the Conversation is the very first book I ever wrote and I’m so excited to introduce it to a new crowd through the YouVersion app.

CTC is a short book designed to spur conversation between teens and young adults and the leaders in their lives about how to date in a way that honors God. We know the word dating doesn’t exist in the Bible; it’s a man-made construct. But as with all the other functions in our lives, there are plenty of ways that we can go about it that lead us closer to God, and plenty more that would lead us away from God. And I’m all about helping the next generation uncover the ways that will lead them closer to God.

The book is not prescriptive in that I don’t give hard guidelines or pretend to know what’s best for every couple. It’s more of a tool to check your mindset towards relationships and dating.

I think it’s also incredibly important for parents and the church to lead the way in holding space for these conversations, as the world is all too happy to speak into these spaces.

My hope is that the plan, and the book if you choose to dive deeper, will encourage you or a younger person in your life to keep Christ first when it comes to dating relationships.

Check out the plan here.

Buy the book here.

Change the Conversation FACELIFT

I’m excited to reveal the NEW cover for my first book, “Change the Conversation,” available soon!

Stay tuned for details! If you want to get a jump start on reading the book, here’s the first chapter, for free!

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Conversations Part 4: Encouragement for the Journey

In “Change the Conversation,” I mention that while there were many talks, scriptures and people that encouraged me along the way, there were 3 specific people who encouraged me as I sought to date and marry in a way that honored God.

The first two were married/engaged and just by the simple telling of their story of how they trusted God and met their significant other, I was encouraged. I had hope that “God’s way worked” because here were normal people, not that much older than myself and they listened to God and they seemed to turn out all right.

The last lady was a speaker at Purity Day at the Capitol, which I attended my senior year of high school. The one phrase that has stuck with me was, “It only gets harder from here.” She didn’t sugarcoat what it meant to walk in obedience to God. She didn’t make it seem like it would always be super easy to make the right choices. And you know what? She was right. The road can be tough on the way to the reward. Her honesty ministered to me that day, and continues to minister to me whenever I think about it.

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So I offer you some words of encouragement. It is always worth it to do things God’s way. Get in his word every day and ask to hear the voice of the Holy Spirit every day so you can better recognize how he is moving in your life.

Remember that circumstances come and go, but God always stays. And he never changes. So build your foundation on him, make him your priority, and no matter who or what he brings into your life, you’ll be on steady ground.

You have my support and prayers, my friend. Happy Tuesday.

Be on guard. Stand firm in the faith. Be courageous. Be strong. And do everything with love. 1 Corinthians 16:13-14


Missed the other posts in the “Conversations” series? Catch up below!

Part 1

Part 2

Part 3

Conversations Part 3: On Prayer

Welcome to Week 3 of the “Conversations” series! July is flying by fast. If you’re just joining us, click the links below to catch up!

Part 1

Part 2

Any glance through my old journals reveals that I was very calm, but persistent in praying to God about the man I would marry. I prayed about meeting him. I prayed about the qualities I desired in him. I prayed about my desires to be in a relationship and get married. I prayed for his future family. And I prayed for “him,” though I didn’t have a face or a name yet.

Years and years of prayer went into our relationship before it even began. In “Change the Conversation,” I also talk about a specific quiet time when I truly laid my request before the Lord about meeting a husband. I talk more about it in this post here, which coincidentally happened five years ago today!

We also prayed during our dating relationship that we would glorify God. We prayed to make good decisions, set boundaries, and meet needs.

I hope you are catching a pattern here. Prayer, when activated, reaps much fruit in every area of our lives. Paraphrasing a quote from “Streams in the Desert,” a Christian can hardly accomplish more than when immersed in prayer.

I don’t know what you’re walking through in your own life right now. Maybe you are praying for job opportunities to open up. Maybe you are praying about funding for a mission trip. Maybe you are praying about the person you will marry. Maybe you are praying for a child. Maybe you are praying that God would heal deep hurts in your heart.

Whatever it is, pray.

Pray quietly, pray out loud, write your prayers out in a journal, share them with a friend, whatever you need to do, lift your requests before the Lord. Pray through scriptures. Pray with songs. Whatever you do, pray. Don’t make it more complicated than it needs to be.

As my husband and I are walking through fertility treatments, we’ve prayed a lot. And by a lot, I mean a lot. Some of have been angry prayers. Some have been tired prayers. A lot have been tearful prayers. But the point is, pray. We don’t see the full fruit of those prayers yet, but I can look back on a long history of answered prayer, and that informs and shapes my future.

Are all my questions answered? No. Is every “what if” satisfied? Definitely not. Do I come before the Lord with perfect faith and patience every time? Ha, NOPE.

But I do come, and I can rest assured today that by faith, my prayers are accounted for and the Lord does hear me. And he hears you, too. Don’t discount the power of prayer.

The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective. James 5:16b

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